Commitment

Commitment? What does the word commitment means to young couples nowadays? Hantu posted the question to a few of us yesterday, “if you are attached, will you still open yourself to other possibilities?” I’m quite glad that not many of us gave him the answer that he was looking for. He was a pro “survival of the fittest” lover. He believes in whoever can make the girl happy deserves the girl, regardless of who knows the girl first or whatever you call commitment. So is it a good thing or not? I don’t know. I wouldn’t say it’s wrong of him to think that way, but it’s just not my “school of thought”.

While having said that, there are people around who actually do such things. That is opening to possibilities while being attached. I’ve seen it first hand, and I guess that person is just going to continue to do it and do it till he/she’s happy with his/her life.

Enough said about that.

I still think one need to be committed in his/her relationship. If not what’s the point of getting into one? Like what jL mentioned, why waste the time of looking for the perfect one when you can work on and strengthen your current relationship?

I personally think that, sometimes your other half is just like your siblings or parents. Even if they have their flaws, they are still someone you love before or will love in the future; you don’t just give up on that person just because you have found someone you are happy with at that particular moment? Just like you don’t find a good god-father and dumb your father? Having said that, I am not encouraging one to stick to their unhappy relationship if things can’t be resolved after many times of salvaging. When it’s time to let go, it’s time to let go.

It’s just like falling out of a relationship. There’s really not much point in dwelling over what could be done and what shouldn’t. For a simple fact, what’s done is done and cannot be undone! So move on with life, there will definitely someone out there waiting for you or for you to know him/her better. When the time comes, please be committed and work on the relationship…no more hopping around…

I miss jL…although it’s just half an hour of absence…bleah~